One of my dear friends has done a disappearing act. I haven’t heard from her in nearly a month, despite several emails and a couple of voice mails.
This isn’t the first time she has seemingly vanished. We’ve had fights over our 20-year friendship that have caused her to go mute on me for weeks. When she was pregnant with her first child, I think a mild depression settled upon her and she kept herself holed up, nearly unreachable, for several months.
I don’t know what’s preventing the communication now. I don’t know whether she is down and needs a shoulder to cry on. Whether she needs support to get through a tough time. Whether she's incredibly busy and can't get to a phone. Or if I did something to upset her and she’s too mad to tell me what it was. I’m at a loss.
She moved away from Southern California a couple months ago, and I’m wondering if part of her assimilation-to-her-new-life process includes cutting ties with her old life. I’m hoping this isn’t the case because I have so much I’m dying to share with her. I want to tell her how Mr. W IMed “I love you” to me. I want to talk to her about what’s going on with friends and family. And find out whether we can plan a girls’ weekend in the fall. I want to know how she’s adjusting to her new house. Whether she has made any new friends. How she’s been spending her days. How her little ones are doing. But it seems that any attempt to reach her is just not getting through.
The stalker side of me even looked on Facebook to see if she’d been talking with anyone else. She seems to be active on there, but just not with me or our local friends. I don’t get it.
So what’s next? A singing telegram? An email to her husband? A flight to the state where she moved? Or continued silence…?