Monday, August 9, 2010

With This Ring, I Thee Stress

Tired of reading wedding posts yet?

I'm beginning to think that planning a wedding is a lot like having children. There are all sorts of magical moments that will forever be tucked in your memory—but most of the time, your life is coated in a fine glaze of stress. Like a low-grade fever. And every now and then, it spikes.

Like any good fever, this one has been causing me to have all sorts of crazy dreams. Last night, I was seeing fonts and invitation designs. And Mr. Wonderful and I were trying to design a poster or something for the wedding. I've also been to ill-fated dress fittings, gotten un-removable lotion gunked up in my ring and even had all the guests show up on the wrong day while I've been lingering in slumberland.

You should see the dark circles under my eyes...

The worst dreams, though, are the pure stress manifestation dreams. Like the one I had last Thursday night. First I hit a gravel patch while driving and my car tipped over and crashed. Then, when I was trying to call for help, my cell phone kept breaking. I couldn't reach anyone. Finally, I walked to a diner alongside the highway and while I was there trying to fix my phone, my purse got stolen. Hello, worst-case-scenario dreamer!

My coworker taught me this anxiety-relieving technique where you tap your index fingers against your clavicle and think the word "calm." I think I clavicle tapped like 15 times this weekend. Fortunately, it seems to work in the moment.

Although my waking life has had some rollercoaster climbs and drops, I've managed to squeeze in some fun around the planning. This weekend I bought a bunch of supplies to make wedding jewelry. And I bought some cute little ballet flats that I think I'll embellish with Swarovski pearls and crystals to match the jewelry. I also bought our guestbook and customized it to match our invitations. All the crafty, DIY stuff is what I live for.

And the rest? Well, I'm hoping it turns out sort of like childbirth and that after some years, the memory of the pain will mellow, and all the who's and what's and day-to-day stresses will linger in my mind as hazy, sweet, sentimental experiences. Maybe by then I'll have stopped dreaming about them, too.

12 comments:

Mandy said...

I can't believe you're bedazzling your shoes. Hee!

Danielle said...

It will all be worth it.
I dream that I loose my car about once a wekk. I am going to have to try the clavical tapping thing!

Sizzle said...

Nothing bad is going to happen. It's going to be glorious. And no, I'm not sick of hearing about wedding plans. I'm totally a junkie for it. ;-)

LesleyG said...

I actually love hearing about wedding plans. I have pretty much no desire to take it on myself, and yet I love seeing what other people do. So, carry on!

P.S. It's all going to work out beautifully, of course. :)

Mom said...

RELAX; You are way ahead of the game and it will all work out perfect. You have lots of time for details.

Mel Heth said...

Mandy - I prefer bridazzle.

Danielle - I hate the losing the car/car getting stolen dream! It's the worst.

Sizzle - I don't think anything too bad will happen...maybe just that people will get mad at me. So glad you're not tired of my posts yet. :) I'm sure by March you will be!

LesleyG - Haha okay if you want to live vicariously, I suppose I'll continue. ;)

Mom - Says the woman who was talking about taking Xanax last night...

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

If something bad happens in your dreams, then it means everything in your life is and will be fine, so says Nilsa. =) And dude, if you're having these kinds of dreams related to your wedding, I can only imagine what your dreams would be like if you were pregnant ... they're supposed to be off the cuff with all the hormones swirling about!

GeekHiker said...

I figured getting married was like having children because it's a moment of pure pleasure followed by a lifetime of stress... ;)

Seriously. Vegas drive-through wedding. Preferably with Elvis. :D

thecoconutdiaries said...

Your day will be fabulous. Or you'll get a really great blog post. Either way, it's a win-win.

laura said...

Your day will be perfect....and even if something does go wrong...or not the way you had planned...it doesn't matter because no one else will know! Happy planning! :)

blakspring said...

i dream about everything too and have yet to find a way to stop that. but in the end you will have a great wedding day. (my only advice is the smaller the wedding, the less stress.)

Big Sister said...

Would you relax already? (and this is coming from me?) It is all going to be just perfect. I think I need to be on salary for this maid of honor job....