Sunday, November 28, 2010

Too Much Sh*t in My Purse

Nearly two years ago when Mr. Wonderful and I took our first big, long vacation together to Italy and Greece, we discovered that my capacity for load-bearing is severely lacking. If I have too much sh*t in my purse, I lose it. Not like I lose the sh*t in my purse—I lose MY sh*t.

Despite the fact that I'm a backpacker who has ferried 30+ pounds of gear on my back into the desert and the mountains, I cannot handle having a heavy coat, a purse and a duffel bag hanging off my body. I might have thrown a duffel bag several feet in LAX at an early hour when we were departing for that Greece/Italy trip. I might also have thrown several temper tantrums because I had two cameras, a mini tripod, maps, a wallet and many other items in my purse while sightseeing throughout Europe. It seems that I am just not made for carrying loads over a certain weight.

Knowing this, it wasn't a huge surprise that I came within inches of a full-blown meltdown Tuesday night. For the past several weeks, I have been carrying not only physically heavy loads—back and forth from my house to Mr. W's—but hefty mental cargo, in the form of to-do lists and continual planning and transition emotions. You see, last weekend I moved into his place.

My apartment of 8 years was packed into a million boxes and bags (some of which landed in the trash and Goodwill). My car became a mini moving van, seeming constantly filled with stuff that needed to be relocated somewhere. My routine and normalcy were hit by a tornado. It all felt very, very heavy to me. Too much to do. Too many ends to tie up. Too many things to find spaces for in this new life. Too little time for it all. Tuesday night, I wanted to strip it all away, strip off my clothes, and go running into the night with nothing weighing me down.

But I didn't. Instead, I came to my new home and told Mr. W that I was so DONE with the moving process I wanted to cry. And he hugged me and told me that it really was done—I had cleaned the last traces of my life out of my apartment that night. I had only one home to bear, not two. Things were going to get lighter. His hug was like helium.

I don't know if I'll ever adjust to having baggage and belongings and burdens pressing down on me. I might have a lifetime of meltdowns in my future. But at least I know there'll be someone there to scrape me off the pavement and throw my purse over his shoulder. Even if it's overflowing with sh*t.

10 comments:

Mr. W said...

I'm here to carry your sh*t whenever you need me to.

LesleyG said...

I hear you. I cannot handle hauling a lot of sh*t, either. At least not for extended time periods. And moving is just a large pain in the ass in itself. Glad you're finished!

Sizzle said...

This makes me remember when Mr. D moved in. It was really hard on him (still is in many ways) to adjust to living in my space which is hopefully slowly becoming our space. I think I would crack under the pressure/burden of it all for sure. I am glad you have Mr. W.

geekhiker said...

Oh, I dunno. Stripping off all your clothes and running buck-nekid down the street would have been a truly memorable way to introduce yourself to the neighborhood...

Nilsa @ SoMi Speaks said...

You know you're with the RIGHT person when that person picks you up instead of letting you spiral out of control. Mr. W seems to have that calming effect on you and that's why you two are so darn cute and wonderful together!

Jane Moneypenny said...

Wow, I had the same exact convo with my traveling partner in Belize. About how tired I am of carrying all this shi*t by myself (mostly bc I insist on it). Someone told me the other day that there's some person in some ancient culture that is seen as the "sink" to everyone's evils (the one that listens and takes it all in). He told said that was me. Blessing but a curse for me and my own evils.

I, too, hate carrying stuff (literally or emotionally). If a world could be w/out purses, I would be happy...

Danielle said...

It must be so comforting to have someone there during those times. I am happy for you for that!

Janice MacLeod said...

This was a lovely post. I feel the same when I have too much baggage in my travels. And as I unravel my apartment these days I'm amazed at all the sh*t everywhere. How did that happen?

leafprobably said...

I hate carrying sh*t too... It gets so bad that sometimes I just leave the house with my credit card in my front pocket, my lipstick in my back pocket, and my keys in my hand.

It pisses a ton of people off though, because I end up being unavailable because I don't have my phone, or laptop, or business cards etc etc.

Meh. I like having sh*t-free days!

blakspring said...

as togh as moving is, it really makes you take stock of what you need and what is simply weighing you down or taking space.