tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post3600613847220892640..comments2023-09-07T04:46:27.378-07:00Comments on Life According to Mel Heth: Worth the WaitMelissa Marishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-82334889121926915402008-08-23T08:54:00.000-07:002008-08-23T08:54:00.000-07:00What a great entry, Mel. It has totally been worth...What a great entry, Mel. It has totally been worth the wait to be at the right time in life to start a family (I have no doubts about becoming a mom) AND to tell you our news in person! It's all so true - life is what you make it, live in the moment, it's the journey not the end... And it's so great to see you are enjoying the "movie" moments you guys are having. Am so happy for you too. :)jen tararahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07380788219152844825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-22978273513305407272008-08-21T19:36:00.000-07:002008-08-21T19:36:00.000-07:00That is such a sweet post. I used to be the same w...That is such a sweet post. I used to be the same way about things in my life. Like it was some to-do list. We just have to trust that all of those life things will happen. (Even if we want them "Now damn it! Now Now Now!!")Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16337478043863460617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-26605771672768712972008-08-21T16:30:00.000-07:002008-08-21T16:30:00.000-07:00This is so, so true. Things happen in time, someti...This is so, so true. Things happen in time, sometimes it doesn't always fit into everyone else's timeline - but when they happen it makes it all the more sweeter! Congrats to your friends and their soon to be baby girl!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-68637493523360300142008-08-21T11:11:00.000-07:002008-08-21T11:11:00.000-07:00I find open heart surgery really helps in the 'not...I find open heart surgery really helps in the 'noticing life's little, but oh so important, deatails. I highly recommend it. If it worked for me, it can work for you!Michael Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18007864829010402376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-35106569961375801812008-08-21T10:14:00.000-07:002008-08-21T10:14:00.000-07:00Anita - Yes, you are in my same boat. :) Let's jus...Anita - Yes, you are in my same boat. :) Let's just throw the oars overboard and sit in the middle of the lake.<BR/><BR/>Dingo - Haha yes, I will find a position for you here (my friend works for my company but in a different location). You're right about the expectations thing. Times 2.<BR/><BR/>Amy - I can't imagine the pressure girls go through in Utah. So crazy. Glad you waited it out and ended up with such a happy life!<BR/><BR/>Wow TWA - Somebody's gotta uphold the integrity of the Internet... :P<BR/><BR/>Brookem - I'm not always patient either. I have to constantly remind myself. But being in the moment IS so much better than projecting into the future in your head. I AM so happy for my friend! She's 38, so this was in the works for awhile. :)<BR/><BR/>Michael - You seem like you pay attention to all sorts of little life details! Maybe you have some super speed sense and were able to go fast and still see everything. Can you see through walls?<BR/><BR/>GeekHiker - I think boys generally have a much easier time with this stuff. Especially the kids thing - sadly women's biological clocks are real things (this is why my friend knew she needed to decide about kids - she's 38). So we tend to jump forward in our thought processes more often than men. And although I'm not really affected by where my friends are now, as a teen and a twenty-something, I definitely struggled with it. Good for you for being more in tune with time and your own desires.<BR/><BR/>JustRun - I know - it makes me think of the phrase "this too shall pass" - which applies not only to the negative times but the positive ones too! We have to savor them!<BR/><BR/>Coconut - I'm SO not qualified to teach a class! I'm a work in progress, myself. My friend waited because she's 38 and wanted to get all the various tests done they make you have over 35. She also wanted to tell me in person, which I'm so glad she did. :)Melissa Marishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-87170838180862785832008-08-21T08:26:00.000-07:002008-08-21T08:26:00.000-07:00You have to teach a class in patience because I've...You have to teach a class in patience because I've gots none. I want it now! I am a little brown Veruca Salt.<BR/><BR/>Why did she wait so long to tell you she's preggers??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-25763230235952280992008-08-21T06:28:00.000-07:002008-08-21T06:28:00.000-07:00Couldn't agree more. I have to remind myself a lo...Couldn't agree more. I have to remind myself a lot to enjoy a moment because even if life just keeps getting better, it's also never going to be just like this again.JustRunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03621925857881380555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-25085608172694676722008-08-20T22:03:00.000-07:002008-08-20T22:03:00.000-07:00I personally never understood the whole goals/wait...I personally never understood the whole goals/waiting thing. I don't see any problem with someone taking three years to decide that they're sure <I>before</I> bringing a kid into this world, especially given the number of children who are brought in too soon to households that later break apart.<BR/><BR/>But maybe it's just me. My goals in terms of careers or relationships or whatever have always been in comparison to what I wanted, not what my friends and acquaintances were doing. Actually, let me correct that a bit: I did go through a period where I realized I wasn't at the same place in my life now as my father was at this point, but I got through that.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad to see that you've slowed down, that you're living in the moment. Remember too not to set your goals based on what others are doing; just do what makes you happy.<BR/><BR/>And congrats to your friend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-22778363439778043392008-08-20T20:12:00.000-07:002008-08-20T20:12:00.000-07:00Congratulations to J too!! It is so cool to be ex...Congratulations to J too!! It is so cool to be expecting. I'd say pregnant, but I really don't know much about that point...<BR/><BR/>I was in a hurry to grow up too and I think at times it had the same effect as driving too fast: you don't tend to have the time to notice things, really see them or enjoy them. I'm much slower now. Seriously, I am. It took me 15 minutes longer the other day to walk 4 miles!!Michael Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18007864829010402376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-57977596142033443302008-08-20T19:58:00.000-07:002008-08-20T19:58:00.000-07:00aw, it's so true. and this is coming from a girl ...aw, it's so true. and this is coming from a girl who isn't always too patient. though, i really think it's so important to live in the moment and enjoy the present and the here and now. you must be so happy for your friend! and you seem so happy where you are RIGHT NOW. enjoy every minute of it my friend, you deserve it!megabrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07116377733819568110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-31064901063672351652008-08-20T14:33:00.000-07:002008-08-20T14:33:00.000-07:00What a nice pleasant blog compared to the nonsense...What a nice pleasant blog compared to the nonsense going around elsewhere!Brettheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962592571393908971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-31655544054509377052008-08-20T14:09:00.000-07:002008-08-20T14:09:00.000-07:00I am totally with you on the waiting thing. Livin...I am totally with you on the waiting thing. Living in Utah, it is even more difficult for people -- believe me. I waited to get married until I was 26, and was 29 when we had our first little one, and a lot of people here made me think I was old. But, then I just had to look outside of this crazy state and realize that it's not the age you get married at that is important, it is that you marry who you really want to marry and that you are who you want to be when you marry!! I have LOTS of friends here who married young and got right into having kids, and now they are divorced, single mothers wondering where their youth went. They never had time to experience life. There will be time, and it will be perfect when that time comes. Rushing it only ruins the process!!Amy Turpinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12585124755444576319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-33129411186609620782008-08-20T12:48:00.000-07:002008-08-20T12:48:00.000-07:00Can we get back to the boozing at work party? Can...Can we get back to the boozing at work party? Can I get a job there?<BR/><BR/>I completely understand about waiting. Sometimes it' not even really "waiting" it's just that it's not time yet. The anxiety that comes from constantly expecting something to happen can completely destroy enjoying now. I know, I know, that's just what you said. I just wanted to say it again.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-30681619714538981922008-08-20T11:03:00.000-07:002008-08-20T11:03:00.000-07:00I can relate to this post on all levels and I coul...I can relate to this post on all levels and I couldn't have said it any better myself. Thanks for reminding me that there is no better moment than now.Anitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13807642899458356423noreply@blogger.com