tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post7735530347762188210..comments2023-09-07T04:46:27.378-07:00Comments on Life According to Mel Heth: The Confidence SpectrumMelissa Marishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-91830246034687981422009-12-17T06:39:21.119-08:002009-12-17T06:39:21.119-08:00and ohmygod, ive heard that dimitri thing before a...and ohmygod, ive heard that dimitri thing before and my friends and i love it!<br /><br />"i'm completely single..."<br />(i wonder why!)megabrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07116377733819568110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-86650024171451523542009-12-17T06:34:26.915-08:002009-12-17T06:34:26.915-08:00i think it takes some time and practice to get to ...i think it takes some time and practice to get to a good, comfy, confidence point. at least i know it did for me, and i still struggle with it.<br />i too, find that quality in manfriend very attractive. he's bold and sure of himself and i always thought that was sexy.megabrookehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07116377733819568110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-23674638172765877872009-12-16T13:00:04.400-08:002009-12-16T13:00:04.400-08:00Danielle - Good - you should be focusing on your b...Danielle - Good - you should be focusing on your best traits. :)<br /><br />Lesley - I can think of 5 things for you: Awesome athlete/runner, insightful writer, world traveler, amazing photographer, looks good dressed up like a cowgirl. :)<br /><br />Jane - You climb MOUNTAINS, girl! If anyone should be confident, it's you! Great quote - love it.<br /><br />Blakspring - I know - the voicemails were unbelievable. I think you're right, that as we reveal ourselves to people we let some of our confidence go. I'm not sure whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.<br /><br />Laura - Yeah I meant more like quiet confidence, not blatant cockiness. That's no bueno. I can think of 5 things for you: Strong, awesome triathlete, hilarious sense of humor, loyal sister, great fashion sense, wonderful vacation planner. :)<br /><br />Mandy - As long as you know what they are, I think it's ok not to write them down. :)<br /><br />Nilsa - You and I need to write a book together, I think. I want to pass a law that bans people from getting married in their 20s. Thanks for the sweet compliment!Melissa Marishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-11059168213331264842009-12-16T12:25:36.273-08:002009-12-16T12:25:36.273-08:00I think it takes most people, regardless of gender...I think it takes most people, regardless of gender, reaching their 30s before they are truly confident in who they are. Unfortunately, so many women, in particular, feel the need to settle down in a serious relationship before that time. And the two definitely conflict with one another. I think the Grown Up Mel is pretty darn remarkable!Nilsa @ SoMi Speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474642034399063234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-22436161831747260502009-12-16T06:19:32.479-08:002009-12-16T06:19:32.479-08:00Agreed. This is a lifelong process. For some of us...Agreed. This is a lifelong process. For some of us, being nice to ourselves takes practice.<br /><br />The thought of writing down five great things about me still makes me red-faced and ashamed. *Laugh* Maybe I'll just think 'em in my head instead.<br /><br />;-)Mandy_Fishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561598721266208665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-85648638058496158662009-12-15T19:42:15.330-08:002009-12-15T19:42:15.330-08:00well said Melissa. BUT....one(NOT YOU)needs to un...well said Melissa. BUT....one(NOT YOU)needs to understand there is a fine line between confidence and cockiness. <br /><br />Having said that...I can't come up with 5 things nice to say about myself...but I am thankful for having such a great life....and sometimes that is enough!! :0)lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-7008320160022114972009-12-15T18:10:31.620-08:002009-12-15T18:10:31.620-08:00before i even get to what you wrote, i have to say...before i even get to what you wrote, i have to say WTF regarding the voice mails. is this guy for real? i hope that was a joke.<br /><br />what you wrote is so true. i used to have very little confidence and it showed. now i tend to make a confident first impression. but what i've noticed about myself is that once i get to know the person better then i somehow start highlighting my flaws and negatives, maybe because i feel comfortable with that person. i hadn't really noticed till recently and your post is just more incentive to STOP IT. thanks.blakspringhttp://www.blakspring.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-48000420689701953322009-12-15T17:44:47.321-08:002009-12-15T17:44:47.321-08:00Ah, you hit the spot. Obviously you and I have had...Ah, you hit the spot. Obviously you and I have had this discussion a lot and it's been a continual problem with me. <br /><br />One of my all-time favorite quotes is from Henry Frederick Emile: "Learn to be what you are, and learn to resign with good grace all that you are not." You're very correct that it's time to focus on the good things and confidence, b/c I am #1 at self-deprecating humor. Thanks for the reminder!Jane Moneypennyhttp://varietyisthespice.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-781075767424582672009-12-15T17:01:09.894-08:002009-12-15T17:01:09.894-08:00"...what YOU are saying about who you are is ..."...what YOU are saying about who you are is largely dictating the perception others have about you."<br /><br />That is SO true. I find myself constantly working on the self-deprecation thing. It is only occasionally appropriate and I use it more than occasionally out of habit. I have been joking to relieve my discomfort for a couple decades, so it's tough to change that. I think there's a lot to be said for timing and letting yourself be yourself in the company of someone you love (that doesn't "have" to love you, like family).<br /><br />I need to work on my five things. First, I think, would be that I can ramble on forever and ever in both written and spoken communication. Crazy awesome, right? :)LesleyGhttp://www.justrunjustlivejustbe.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-62780198487370739162009-12-15T14:38:28.075-08:002009-12-15T14:38:28.075-08:00Good post and it made me think. I just wrote my 5...Good post and it made me think. I just wrote my 5 down and am going to focus on them.Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06587186690785139860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-22025840055152344632009-12-15T14:25:44.236-08:002009-12-15T14:25:44.236-08:00Wow TWA - You are a crack up. I love your list. An...Wow TWA - You are a crack up. I love your list. And I like what you said about having confidence to share vulnerability. Very insightful point.Melissa Marishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15216312159880277204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087093335837785770.post-37954615845535964442009-12-15T14:21:03.001-08:002009-12-15T14:21:03.001-08:00Confidence is powerful. And having the confidence...Confidence is powerful. And having the confidence to share your vulnerability with the right person is pretty darn powerful too.<br /><br />I think my five things are that I shower five or six times a week, I know where to find great phad thai, my lack of good looks will make the person I'm with feel like the hot one, if you tell me to stop talking with my mouth full there is a good chance I will actually stop, and I sorta know Mel Heth at least in the online bloggy world.Brettheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09962592571393908971noreply@blogger.com