When was the last time you heard a man say, "I'm just really self-conscious about the crease in my forehead." Or, "I'll start dating again after I lose 10 pounds." Your answer should be: Never.
Men don't talk or think like that. They don't derive their senses of self from their body image. They don't let a few extra pounds or some crow's feet hold them back from going after what they want.
Yet, the older I get, the more I hear the women around me expounding on the things they hate about their bodies or the "work" they're planning to get done. Stop The Insanity, Ladies! You Do Not Have To Be Perfect!
Just because your nose isn't as sculpted as Posh Beckham's and your boobs aren't as voluptuous as Tyra Banks' doesn't mean you have to A. Feel bad about yourself B. Avoid interaction with the opposite sex until you get in better shape or C. Spend thousands to get them fixed. I guarantee there are a million other qualities about yourself you should be focused on!
Look at Audrey Hepburn. As she got older, she had wrinkles galore. And I don't think she was ever very busty. But the woman accentuated her positives to the nth degree and will forever live on as a cinema and humanitarian goddess! My mother, on the other hand, cannot look at herself as an amazing grandmother with sparkley blue eyes and a pretty nice rack for an old chick—no she has to zero in on the parentheses around her mouth and get them injected with some freaky phoney substance so her face looks plumper when she puts on her makeup.
I just don't get it. Why do we allow ourselves to fall victim to self-defeating thoughts when the men around us never do? And frankly, I don't think the good men care about the stuff we're all hung up on!
If women could just unite and make the decision to embrace our differences and concentrate on the wonderful things we have to offer—instead of the minor flaws we all have—I think the world would be a more beautiful, diverse and confident place.
Oh and magazine beauty—it's a sham. Check this out: http://youtube.com/watch?v=iYhCn0jf46U