Sunday, December 2, 2007

Sistas Before Mistas

We're all guilty of it: You meet a new guy, start dating, and suddenly you begin investing all your physical, mental and emotional assets into his stock. You can't help it—he's charming and funny and sexy. Definitely a hot commodity! But where does this leave your equally charming, funny, sexy and dependable-for-a-great-return-on-investment girlfriends?

Unfortunately, the answer is often: In the gutter. Or at least that's the way it may feel to them.

It seems that no matter how hard you may think you're trying to maintain the balance with your friends, your new man infatuation is going to creep into every interaction and potentially taint your girl time. Even if you're logging hours with the ladies, they'll know when he's on your mind and they're not. And we all know how quickly the "he did the cutest thing" stories can get old.

On the flip-side of all this, though, don't we owe it to each other—as devoted girlfriends—to try to be understanding when our gals have new guys? It may be rough on us—especially if we are unattached ourselves. But shouldn't we hearken back to our own days of couplehood and try to remember what it was like to be ecstatically consumed by someone new?

I think the duty falls on all of us to straddle both sides of the fence. Let's not drop one another by the wayside when we're in the throes of crushdom. But let's also try to be empathetic to each other during those first days of boy-inspired elation. Because really, there's enough love to go around for everyone, right?

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